On Children

Kahlil GibranEnglish18 lines1 public analyses
Original Poetry
Translation
On Children
On Children
Kahlil Gibran
Kahlil Gibran
And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, Speak to us of Children.
A woman with a baby asked him to talk about children.
And he said:
And he replied:
Your children are not your children.
Your children do not belong to you.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They are the offspring of Life's desire for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
They come through you but are not created by you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
And even though they are with you, they do not belong to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
You can give them your love but not your ideas,
For they have their own thoughts.
Because they have their own ideas.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
You can provide for their bodies but not their spirits,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
For their spirits live in the future, a place you cannot reach, not even in dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
You may try to be like them, but do not try to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
Because life does not move backward nor linger on the past.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
You are the bows from which your children, as living arrows, are launched.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
The archer sees the target on the endless path, and He uses His strength to bend you so that His arrows can fly swiftly and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
Let your bending in the archer's hand be joyful;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
For just as He loves the arrow that flies, He also loves the bow that remains steady.
 

Explanation

In 'On Children', Kahlil Gibran explores the profound relationship between parents and their children, emphasizing the idea that children are not possessions but independent beings. The poem opens with a woman asking Gibran to speak about children, setting a reflective tone. He asserts, "Your children are not your children," suggesting that while parents may nurture their offspring, the essence of the child is separate and belongs to the greater cycle of life. This notion is reinforced with the line, "They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself," which elevates children to a universal status, indicating they are part of a larger existence beyond parental control.

As the poem progresses, Gibran advises parents to love their children but not impose their thoughts upon them, as each child possesses their own individuality. The metaphor of parents as bows and children as arrows illustrates the idea that while parents provide the foundation and support, children must be allowed to pursue their own paths. The imagery of the archer bending the bow signifies the strength and flexibility required from parents, who must adapt to allow their children to soar.

The emotional arc of the poem transitions from a sense of ownership to a realization of freedom, highlighting the bittersweet nature of parenting. The tone is both reverent and contemplative, urging parents to embrace their role with joy rather than possessiveness. Gibran employs metaphors and vivid imagery to convey his message, making the reader reflect on the deeper implications of parenthood. Ultimately, the poem speaks to the universal experience of raising children, emphasizing the importance of nurturing their independence while celebrating the bond shared between parent and child.

Word Dictionary98

WordIn EnglishPlain (English)Pron.
andاورa conjunction used to connect words or phrasesand
aایکan indefinite article used before a nouna
womanعورتan adult female humanwoman
whoجوa pronoun used to refer to a personwho
heldپکڑاto have or keep in one's handsheld
babeبچہa very young childbabe
againstکے خلافin opposition to or in contact withagainst
herاس کاa possessive pronoun referring to a femaleher
bosomسینہthe chest or heart area, often symbolizing lovebosom
saidکہاto express in wordssaid
speakبولناto talk or express verballyspeak
toکی طرفa preposition used to indicate direction or purposeto
usہمیںa pronoun referring to the speaker and othersus
ofکاa preposition indicating belonging or relationof
childrenبچےyoung human beings, typically under the age of adulthoodchildren
yourآپ کاa possessive pronoun referring to the listeneryour
areہیںa verb used to indicate existence or identityare
notنہیںa word used to negate a statementnot
sonsبیٹےmale childrensons
daughtersبیٹیاںfemale childrendaughters
life’sزندگی کاbelonging to lifelife’s
longingتڑپa strong desire or yearninglonging
forکے لیےa preposition indicating purpose or reasonfor
itselfخودreferring to the subject itselfitself
theyوہa pronoun referring to childrenthey
comeآتے ہیںto arrive or be broughtcome
throughکے ذریعےby means of or viathrough
youآپa pronoun referring to the listeneryou
butلیکنa conjunction used to introduce a contrastbut
fromسےa preposition indicating the source or originfrom
thoughحالانکہdespite the fact thatthough
withکے ساتھa preposition indicating accompanimentwith
yetپھر بھیnevertheless; in spite of thatyet
belongتعلق رکھناto be the property ofbelong
mayکر سکتے ہیںto be allowed to; to have permission tomay
giveدیناto provide or hand overgive
themانہیںa pronoun referring to childrenthem
loveمحبتa strong affection or deep concern for someonelove
thoughtsخیالاتideas or opinions formed in the mindthoughts
haveہےto possess or ownhave
theirان کاa possessive pronoun referring to themtheir
ownاپناbelonging to oneself; not sharedown
houseگھرa physical structure for livinghouse
bodiesاجسامthe physical forms of living beingsbodies
soulsروحیںthe spiritual or immaterial part of a personsouls
dwellرہناto live or reside in a placedwell
inمیںa preposition indicating location or positionin
theوہa definite article used before a nounthe
tomorrowکلthe day after today; the futuretomorrow
whichجوa pronoun used to refer to a specific thingwhich
cannotنہیں کر سکتےto be unable to do somethingcannot
visitدیکھناto go to see someone or somethingvisit
evenحتیused to emphasize something surprisingeven
dreamsخوابthoughts, images, or emotions occurring during sleepdreams
striveکوشش کرناto make great efforts to achieve somethingstrive
beہوناto exist or occurbe
likeکی طرحsimilar to; in the manner oflike
seekتلاش کرناto try to find or achieve somethingseek
makeبناناto create or form somethingmake
lifeزندگیthe condition that distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matterlife
goesجاتا ہےto move or proceedgoes
backwardپیچھےin the direction of the back; reversebackward
norنہand not; neithernor
tarriesرکناto delay or lingertarries
yesterdayکلthe day before todayyesterday
bowsکمانیںcurved weapons used to shoot arrowsbows
asکی طرحin the same manner or wayas
livingزندہhaving life; not deadliving
arrowsتیرprojectiles shot from a bowarrows
sentبھیجے گئےto be directed or dispatchedsent
forthآگےforward in space or timeforth
archerکماندارa person who shoots arrows with a bowarcher
seesدیکھتا ہےto perceive with the eyessees
markنشانa visible impression or signmark
uponپرon or ontoupon
pathراستہa way or track laid down for walking or made by continual treadingpath
infiniteلامتناہیlimitless or endlessinfinite
heوہa pronoun referring to a malehe
bendsموڑتا ہےto curve or flex somethingbends
hisاس کاa possessive pronoun referring to a malehis
mightطاقتgreat strength or powermight
thatکہa conjunction used to introduce a clausethat
goجاناto move or proceedgo
swiftتیزmoving quicklyswift
farدورat a great distancefar
letاجازت دیناto allow or permitlet
bendingجھکاؤthe action of curving or flexingbending
archer’sکماندار کاbelonging to the archerarcher’s
handہاتھthe end part of a person's armhand
gladnessخوشیa feeling of joy or happinessgladness
lovesمحبت کرتا ہےto have a deep affection for someoneloves
arrowتیرa projectile shot from a bowarrow
fliesاڑتا ہےto move through the airflies
soاسی طرحin the same mannerso
alsoبھیin addition; tooalso
bowکمانa curved weapon used to shoot arrowsbow
isہےa verb used to indicate existence or identityis
stableمضبوطfirmly fixed; not likely to changestable

Poet & Context

Era20th century

Kahlil Gibran (1883-1931) was a Lebanese-American writer, poet, and visual artist, best known for his book 'The Prophet'. He is celebrated for his philosophical writings that blend spirituality and humanism.

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When1923
WhyGibran's reflections on parenthood and the nature of children highlight the philosophical and spiritual aspects of life, emphasizing the individuality of children and the role of parents.
Formprose poetry

Themes & More

parenthoodindividuality
metaphor: comparing parents to bows and children to arrows emphasizes the relationship of support and independence.imagery: vivid descriptions create a strong visual representation of the concepts of life and growth.
On Children by Kahlil Gibran — Poem, Translation & Meaning