Departures

Theophilus KwekEnglish24 lines1 public analyses
Original Poetry
Translation
Strange, how we discuss death over dinner.
It's strange how we talk about death while eating dinner.
Nai-nai couches the passing of a loved one
Grandmother describes the death of a loved one
as a walking away, as if someone
as if they just walked away, like someone
meant to join us for a meal
who was supposed to join us for dinner
were caught up elsewhere. Aunty Fang
but got busy elsewhere. Aunt Fang
nods to herself; she was at the wake the night before,
nods to herself; she was at the funeral the night before,
and cannot forget how young the body looked.
and can't forget how young the person looked.
Uncle Yang is his usual self, reserved,
Uncle Yang is his usual self, quiet,
but slightly quieter.
but a bit more silent than usual.
Father is last to hear the news. I watch him
Father is the last to hear the news. I watch him
mix regret with shock under his tongue,
mix regret and shock in his mouth,
shape a prayer waiting to be uttered.
form a prayer he's about to say.
He swallows a mouthful of rice, asks, how old?
He swallows some rice, asks, how old?
Fifty-eight, nai-nai replies. She had cancer,
Fifty-eight, grandmother replies. She had cancer,
but was still active. So young! –
but was still active. So young! –
father exclaims; his voice has an edge
father exclaims; his voice has a sharpness
that brings new silence. Someone sighs,
that brings a new silence. Someone sighs,
can’t be helped. People
can't be helped. People
come, and quickly go.
come, and quickly go.
Heads bob uncertainly, then in agreement,
Heads nod uncertainly, then in agreement,
as a bowl of fruit is placed amidst the unfinished dishes.
as a bowl of fruit is placed among the unfinished dishes.
We each take a slice,
We each take a piece,
but delay clearing our plates. We have all
but delay clearing our plates. We have all
finished, but cannot bear to leave.
finished, but can't bring ourselves to leave.
 

Explanation

Theophilus Kwek's poem "Departures" explores the theme of mortality through the lens of a family dinner conversation. The poem opens with the peculiar juxtaposition of discussing death over a meal, highlighting how the grandmother, "Nai-nai," softens the reality of death by describing it as a mere "walking away." This metaphor suggests a gentle departure rather than a harsh end, reflecting cultural attitudes towards death.

As the family processes the news of a loved one's passing, each member reacts differently. Aunty Fang's nod and Uncle Yang's reserved demeanor contrast with the father's more vocal shock and regret. The father's reaction, especially his exclamation "So young!", underscores the abruptness and unfairness of death, particularly when it strikes someone still active at fifty-eight.

The emotional arc of the poem moves from initial shock and disbelief to a somber acceptance. The family's inability to leave the dinner table, despite having finished their meal, symbolizes their reluctance to move on from the deceased's memory. The tone is reflective and subdued, capturing the quiet grief that lingers in the aftermath of loss.

Kwek employs literary devices such as metaphor and imagery to convey the poem's themes. The metaphor of death as a "walking away" softens the harsh reality, while the imagery of "a bowl of fruit placed amidst the unfinished dishes" symbolizes life's continuity amidst loss. The poem's free verse form allows for a natural, conversational flow, mirroring the casual yet profound nature of the dinner conversation.

Ultimately, "Departures" speaks to the universal experience of grappling with mortality and the ways families cope with loss. It reflects on the transient nature of life and the enduring impact of those who leave us, fitting well within Kwek's broader exploration of identity and displacement.

Word Dictionary14

WordIn EnglishPlain (English)Pron.
couchesexpresses, framesputs into words in a particular waykau-chiz
wakefuneral gatheringa vigil held beside the body of someone who has diedwayk
reservedquiet, restrainednot openly expressing feelings or opinionsri-zurvd
utteredspoken, saidexpressed alouduh-turd
exclaimsshouts, cries outsays something suddenly and loudlyiks-kleymz
bowldish, containera round, deep dish used for foodbohl
silencequiet, stillnessabsence of soundsai-luhns
regretsorrow, remorsea feeling of sadness about somethingri-gret
shocksurprise, disbeliefa sudden upsetting or surprising eventshok
cancerdisease, illnessa serious disease caused by cells that are not normalkan-ser
sighsbreathes out heavilylets out a long, deep breath expressing sadness or reliefsahyz
bearsendures, toleratescarries or supports the weight ofbehrz
uncertainlydoubtfully, hesitantlyin a way that is not sure or definiteuhn-sur-tuhn-lee
agreementconsent, accorda situation in which people share the same opinionuh-gree-muhnt

Poet & Context

EraContemporary

Theophilus Kwek is a Singaporean poet, editor, and critic born in 1994. He has served as President of the Oxford University Poetry Society and is involved with various literary journals. Kwek's work often explores themes of displacement and identity.

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WhenContemporary period
WhyThe poem reflects on the themes of mortality and the transient nature of life, possibly inspired by personal experiences or observations of family dynamics.
FormFree verse

Themes & More

mortalityfamilygrieftransience
metaphor: Death is described as a 'walking away', softening its harshness.imagery: The 'bowl of fruit placed amidst the unfinished dishes' symbolizes life's continuity.tone: Reflective and subdued, capturing quiet grief.
Departures by Theophilus Kwek — Poem, Translation & Meaning