My mother before she died insisted

Stephen GrayEnglish24 lines1 public analyses
Original Poetry
Translation
My mother before she died insisted
My mom, before she died, insisted
I should have a herb garden
That I should have a herb garden.
Something in her English soul
Something in her English spirit
amid rough South Africans
Among the tough South Africans
Called for the tenderness of mint 5
Wanted the softness of mint
The old scent of lavender1 and sage2
The familiar smell of lavender and sage.
They arrived in soggy pages of The Star3
They came wrapped in wet newspaper.
With a spade taller than herself
With a shovel taller than her,
She dug them into my backyard
She planted them in my backyard
Before I was ready for them 10
Before I was ready for them.
A cigarette tightly in her lips
A cigarette tightly in her lips,
Explaining chives4 made life worthwhile
She said that chives made life worth it.
That is how she died in her own
That's how she died in her own
Garden of sweet remembrance5
Garden of sweet memories.
Very frail then with a bucket and spade 15
Very weak then with a small bucket and shovel,
The size we children used for play
The kind we kids used for play.
Always finding the sun too hot the soil
Always finding the sun too hot, the soil
Far too dry for the gentler herbs
Too dry for the gentler herbs.
Today after the long heart-stopping drought
Today, after the long, heart-stopping drought,
My mother's bed of lost spices 20
My mom's bed of forgotten spices
Has so flourished I have cut it back
Has grown so much that I've cut it back.
And the mint is in the crevices6 of fingers
And the mint is in the cracks of my fingers,
The sage under my very nails
The sage under my nails,
And I remember her every gesture.
And I remember her every move.
 

Explanation

The poem 'The Herb Garden' by Stephen Gray reflects on the poet's memories of his mother and the herb garden she insisted on creating. It explores themes of remembrance, heritage, and the connection between past and present. The mother's English heritage and her desire for a herb garden amidst the harsh South African environment symbolize a longing for gentleness and familiarity. The poem describes how she planted herbs like mint, lavender, and sage, which are associated with tenderness and memory. Despite the challenges of the environment, the garden flourishes after a drought, symbolizing resilience and the enduring impact of the mother's influence. The poet's recollection of his mother's gestures and the scents of the herbs evoke a sense of nostalgia and emotional connection to her legacy. The poem uses vivid imagery to convey the sensory experience of the garden and the deep emotional ties between the poet and his mother.

Word Dictionary14

WordIn EnglishPlain (English)Pron.
insisteddemandedfirmly requested or requiredin-sist-ed
amidamongin the middle ofa-mid
tendernessgentlenesssoftness or kindnessten-der-ness
lavendera fragrant planta plant with a sweet smell, often used in perfumesla-ven-der
sagea herba plant used in cooking and medicinesayj
soggywetsoaked with moisturesog-gy
spadeshovela tool for diggingspade
chivesa type of oniona small onion-like plant used in cookingchives
remembrancememorythe act of rememberingre-mem-brance
frailweakphysically weak or delicatefrail
droughtdry perioda long period without raindrought
flourishedthrivedgrew well and healthilyflour-ished
crevicescracksnarrow openings or gapscre-vi-ces
gesturesmovementsmotions made with the bodyges-tures

Poet & Context

Era20th-21st Century

Stephen Gray is a South African poet, writer, and critic known for his contributions to literature and his exploration of identity and culture. His works often reflect on personal and societal themes.

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When20th-21st Century
WhyThe poem reflects on the poet's personal memories and the cultural significance of maintaining a herb garden, a tradition passed down from his mother. It explores themes of remembrance, heritage, and the connection between past and present.
FormFree verse

Themes & More

RemembranceHeritageNatureFamily
Imagery: Vivid descriptions of the herb garden and the mother's actions create a sensory experience.Symbolism: The herb garden symbolizes the mother's legacy and the connection to her heritage.Metaphor: The garden represents the nurturing and enduring influence of the mother.Personification: The garden is described as flourishing, giving it human-like qualities.
My mother before she died insisted by Stephen Gray — Poem, Translation & Meaning